Friday, May 11

"The good wife's guide"

Untitled,07, Bita

I’ve received the following “mock up,” or the “article,” in its entirety, via mail, and the only explanation that came with it was that in 1970s the “guide” was circulated around college campuses, and “now is circulating” the net. Since I have no intention of re-typing the whole thing here, I have decided to jot down a few of the “suggestions,” and if you are interested to read the entire thing, you can click here, and read on!

Here is a sample of the guidelines:

“Have a dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return”.

One may dare to say, “What could be more delightful than preparing a meal for two, in order to make “One” happy?

“Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people”.

Women in those days were magicians just as they are now! And poor, poor dear-old-mummys’boys, who had to deal with a “lot of work-weary people;” they really did deserve to be taken care of by their women!

“Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction”.

In those days, apparently, a woman’s ease and “satisfaction” in life depended on her husband’s “comfort” that which depended upon residing in Haven!!!

“Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him”.



serendip said...

Breathtaking artwork.

The good wife's guide should be change to The good "Maid's guide". Utter nonsense. You do things for people you love out of love not because they happen to be of a particular gender or carry some arbitary role assigned to them by society.

Sometimes, I spoil my husband to death out of love for him and other times when I'm working on a project, he spoils me. Sometimes I give him 90%, and he gives me only 10% and vice versa. There is no specific guide or formula to love your husband or make a marriage work.

katyoun said...

dear serendip,

I liked your comment; you are good partner to your husband just as he is for you. It is a wonderful thing to be devoted to what we do, and to put effort in making things work. To maintain a balance is the key to success in any form of partnership.

I wish you and your husband a happy, solid life,filled with love and respect.

serendip said...

Thank you sweetheart for your kind words. I wish you a very a caring and loving husband...LOL that is if you're not married.